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Working At Peace

Psalm 29, Romans 5:1-11, Philippians 4:2-9,

“The LORD gives his people strength; the LORD blesses his people with peace.”
Psalm 29:11

“…we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ.”
Romans 5:1

“And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:7

Through Jesus Christ we are at peace with God (reconciled). This is also expressed as being God’s children, the LORD’s people. So, God gives us strength. This strength, the promise fulfilled through Christ, is a peace that surpasses all understanding.

Peace isn’t a one-time thing. Peace is not something that just happens. Peace is hard work. For us to be reconciled to God (“…peace with God…”), the Son of God came to earth, became one of us, and died for all of us. If Jesus died for this peace, why do we ever think it is easy?

It takes strength to be at peace. It takes effort to be at peace. “That person cut me off, they…” Be at peace? Have you driven around here? Just driving can cause one to not be at peace with the people around them! Then there are the family, work, church and general people dynamics which just makes being at peace hard!

PEACE IS HARD WORK! “I’m at peace about this.” If one is truly at peace about something, there was effort involved. Sometimes we are at “peace” because we are fatalistic about it. Sometimes we are at “peace”, because we “know” the end result. Sometimes we are at peace because we surrendered it to God.

1) Why do you think “spiritual” peace is viewed as something “just” given?

2) Have you ever had to work really hard to be at peace about something?

3) Should you feel guilty about having to work at being at peace?

4) Is being at peace worth the effort?

KD) Are you at peace with God? If not, why not? If you are, how?

2018-12-11
Free to Feel

Psalm 42, 2 Samuel 7:18-29, Romans 15:7-13

“…Put your hope in God, for I will still praise him, my Savior and my God.”
Psalm 42:5

“…Do as you have promised, so that your name will be exalted forever…”
2 Samuel 7:25-26

The Psalmist and David have different emotions in their words. The Psalmist seems exhausted mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It would be reasonable to say that the Psalmist was very depressed. David on the other hand was joy-filled for God had made a promise to him that his family (his house) would forever have a place before God. In a culture where family was of greater importance than the individual, this was a big deal.

Both Psalmist and David, regardless of circumstances, put their hope in God. Both understood that they were insignificant in comparison to God, but that they were not insignificant to God. That is hope built on solid ground. An individual’s daily struggles may be small in comparison to the big picture, but the God who continues to draw the big picture knows that every person has their right place in the picture, and because of that, they are significant to God.

The social and cultural events that occur around Christmas (company parties, family get togethers, even church activities) can often exhaust and overwhelm us. Many of these activities can feel more like obligations, rather than times of joy and warm-heartedness. The times around Christmas can find feeling like both the Psalmist (exhausted/depressed) and David (joy-filled and thanks-filled). Sometimes the change in moods can catch us by surprise, and we might even feel guilty for our feelings. As long as our hope rests on/in God, we are free to feel. We are free in Christ.

1) How can you strengthen other people’s hope in Jesus? How will you?

2) The best “tool” we have to feel hope is the Holy Spirit. How can you “use” the Holy Spirit to strengthen your hope?

3/KD) Christmas is a time to give and receive gifts. Not everyone gets presents. How can you show and share that the best gift is Jesus?

“Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you believe so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”
Romans 15:13

2018-12-04
The Family Story

Psalm 25:1-10, Nehemiah 9:26-31, Luke 21:20-24

“All the Lord’s ways show faithful love and truth to those who keep his covenant and decrees.” (Psalm 25:10)

“But they were disobedient and rebelled against you. They flung your law behind their backs and killed your prophets who warned them.” (Nehemiah 9:26)

“…Jerusalem will be trampled by the Gentiles until the times of the Gentiles are fulfilled.” (Luke 21:24)

It not a new thing that people praise God and then turn their backs on God later.
Nehemiah recalls that people were inconsistent, following a Godly-ish leader, then falling away, falling to sin and oppression, then being restored. Could Nehemiah be wondering if the Israelites—finally returning home from Babylonian captivity—will last in their faithfulness, or if they will fall away…again. Throughout the bible there is an optimism that God is gracious and compassionate, and as bad as things get, God is still there.

God also never intended the story to be just about the Israelites. Through Jesus, the whole world (the Gentiles) has the opportunity to be part of God’s family and part of God’s redemptive story. So much of the story of God is about God seeking to restore right relationship between him and his chosen people, including us today.

1) Christmas is culturally a family time of celebration. Who are some people who don’t have family around, that you could invite to be part of your family this Christmas season? Or, do you need a family, just for a short time this season? Do we need framily?

2) God’s story is redemption and family. Is there a family relationship that needs to be restored? Is there a friendship than needs restoration?

3/KD) We are called to be like Christ. How can we show others, especially during Advent, what a redeemed life and a life with family (or framily) looks like?

2018-12-01
Learn and Apply

Psalm 25:1-10, Nehemiah 9:16-25, 1 Thessalonians 5:12-22

“Make your ways known to me, Lord; teach me your paths.” (Psalm 25:4)

“You sent your good Spirit to instruct them…” (Nehemiah 9:20)

“…test all things. Hold on to what is good. Stay away from evil.” (1 Thessalonians 5:21-22)

Psalm 25 is viewed by many scholars as a solid instruction in the faithful covenant life. Many also view this as written by King David toward the end of his life. If we take these two views together, we can see a man who, though very flawed, pursued God and did his best to understand God, and who continued to seek guidance to know God’s plan and fulfill it faithfully.

Nehemiah reflects on the Israelite exodus from Egypt as part of his reflection upon the return of the remnants of Israel from exile. Nehemiah acknowledges that God never stopped trying to guide the Israelites from their bad habits taken from Egypt. Those that he leads after their exile have brought habits from Babylon that are not of God.

Paul writes to the Thessalonians, people who were deeply embedded in a culture that did not know God. He calls on them to bear the struggles they are currently going through and to not abandon the faith. Indeed, he calls on them to live it even more deeply, using the faith to filter the world around them and their lives.

Advent counts down until God comes down. Advent is not just about a child in a manger; it is also about God coming back at the end of the story. Christmas is about the never-ending gift that changes lives, given to us by someone who came and lived just like us.

When the culture around us counts down the days until Christmas, the culture is really counting down until the time when material things triumph. It is so easy to succumb to the pressures of fitting in. It is so easy to follow the habits and traditions of our culture, which drowns out the hope and light of God with stuff, or shares light-hearted stories without the God of the Universe whose love shines through. Often our biggest challenge during Christmas and Advent is for us to keep Christ in Christmas.

1) What family traditions do you have in this season?

2) How do you use those family traditions to bring God in?

KD) What is your favorite family Christmas tradition? How do you see God in it?

2018-11-30
Advental Breathing
Psalm 25:1-10, Nehemiah 9:6-15, 1 Thessalonians 5:1-11

Remember, LORD, your compassion
and your faithful love,
for they have existed from antiquity.
(Psalm 25:6)

As we enter the Advent Season this Sunday, we will be drawn to worry about family and other social gatherings. The culture around us has begun its annual whirlwind of consumption and revelry. As Christmas approaches, the normal Christian gets pulled into the culture’s orbit, and it seems so good, because it has to do with Christmas.

Take a breath. Breathe in. Breath out.

While breathing in deeply, say, “Remember, Lord, your compassion.”

While breathing out, say, “Be compassionate to your servant.”

While breathing in deeply (again), say, “Remember, Lord, your faithful love.”

While breathing out, say, “Remind your servant of your faithful love.”

The psalmist is all but throwing himself onto the grace of God. Nehemiah is seeing the grace of God in action through restoration. Paul is reminding the Thessalonians of the grace they have experienced, and the grace-filled life they are called to live out.

As the world enters a time of material craziness, we are called to enter a time of grace, a time to invite God incarnate, Emmanuel, to abide with us. Let us enter into His grace-filled presence and transform the space around us.

1) It is often hard to be grace-filled in this season, and especially to share it. What can you do to share the grace that God has placed in your life?
2) Can you see yourself throwing yourself into the lap of God? If, yes, how do you balance the awe of God with that openness? If, no, how do you balance this “reckless” love that God expressed in birth and death with the awe that you feel, or the “respect” that you must/should have?
KD) Are you excited about Christmas? Presents? Do you think about the best present of all, Jesus, and how to give Him to your friends?
2018-11-29